There\u2019s no doubt our initial exchanges can be decisive for what follows. So it\u2019s no accident that merely thinking about this makes you nervous. It\u2019s a situation in which you can feel particularly vulnerable. Those first few words certainly weigh in the balance, but don\u2019t forget that language is not only verbal.<\/p>\n
The idea is for the other person to be interested in you, while making him or her feel important and at ease, at the same time. Here are a couple of tips to help you get that initial conversation going in the right direction.<\/p>\n
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Are you a tad nervous and afraid of looking foolish? First of all: relax and don\u2019t be dramatic. Act as though the man you are meeting is already a good friend. You\u2019ll find that subjects of conversation will come to mind more easily.<\/p>\n
Among the vast range of conversation starters to be found on the Web, here are three that are deceptively simple. Once that first nervy patch is past, you\u2019ll find that starting a conversation doesn\u2019t involve any rocket science.<\/p>\n
What could be more natural than talking about yourself? After all, for the gentleman in question, you are the hot topic and the one who knows that subject best! Naturally, you are not going to unroll your entire pedigree and life story in one go. You can use whatever surroundings you are in to reveal something about you. For example: \u201cThis is the park I used to love coming to when I was younger. I would sit on the grass and read after my jogging, or just watching the people passing by\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n
A classic never out of fashion. This innocent-seeming question can get the ball rolling on a host of other subjects. The answer can take you down all sorts of paths to do with work, hobbies and relationships. It\u2019s an excellent way to identify connections of mutual interest.<\/p>\n
Without wanting to seem like you\u2019re in interview mode, it can prove interesting to lead your partner to speak of his accomplishments. Where is the man who does not like to boast, at least a little? It should allow you to quickly grasp what motivates and gratifies him. According to Wendy Walsh, Ph.D. and author of The 30-Day Love Detox, <\/em>a healthy ego is very sexy.<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Are you looking for just the right opening line that will leave her breathless\/make her fall in an instant? Forget it. Classic flirting lines won\u2019t work with women who are looking for a man with values. And your true value will stand out when you use your own words, showing your genuine character.<\/p>\n Instead, show her how you might make her life more interesting, and even improve it. Here are a couple of possibilities to begin with.<\/p>\n All women like feeling useful and being shown consideration. Depending on the moment, find a way of asking her opinion about a given subject that will allow her to subtly open up. For example, tell her you have been looking for a way of saving your hibiscus from aphids, or are hesitating between two destinations for your next holiday, or you are looking for a present for your sister\u2026<\/p>\n Showing interest in her life will always be appreciated. Not only do women enjoy speaking about themselves, but the lady you are with at the moment will like it more if you take an interest in her life and what she has to say. And if career talk doesn\u2019t seem to hit the spot, try hobbies or her role as a mother, depending on the case.<\/p>\n Another simple and effective way of learning more about your companion and potential subjects of mutual interest is to get her to speak about the coming weekend. You are likely to learn a lot about her leisure-time activities, entourage, and lifestyle in general.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Ask open-ended questions (requiring some development) and make an effort to put them in an original and amusing way. For example, \u201cIf you could go anywhere on earth you liked, where would you go?\u201d or \u201cIf you were a fictional character, which one would you be?\u201d or on a more serious note perhaps, \u201cWhere do you see yourself being in ten years time?\u201d<\/p>\n<\/li>\n Smile and laugh. Nothing is more attractive.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n Look into the other person\u2019s eyes. This is really important when it comes to a first conversation. A look that is frank and open displays interest and confidence. But you should avoid being too intense so you don\u2019t frighten him or her away!<\/p>\n<\/li>\n Don\u2019t try and calculate each word you say\u2026 Be confident, feel natural and relaxed, and have fun.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\nGentlemen<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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